SETTING GOALS

TABLE OF CONTENTS

PREFACE .................................................. xi

CHAPTER I:   WHAT WE ALL WANT ............................. 1
 Satisfaction ............................................. 2
 The First Step ........................................... 3
 Clarity .................................................. 4
 Our Basic Needs .......................................... 5
 The Traffic Jam Philosophy ............................... 6
 The Source of Satisfaction ............................... 8

CHAPTER II:   DISCOVERING WHAT WE WANT ................... 11
 The "I Should" Syndrome ................................. 13
 Have Fun ................................................ 15
 What Is A Goal? ......................................... 16

CHAPTER III:   HOW WE’VE DONE SO FAR ..................... 21
 Is Your Clock Ticking ................................... 22
 Stagnation .............................................. 23
 Apathetic Type I ........................................ 24
 Apathetic Type II ....................................... 24
 It’s Contagious ......................................... 25
 What the "Experts" Say .................................. 28
 About Winning ........................................... 29
 Fear Motivation ......................................... 30
 What People Go Through .................................. 31
 Failure - Disappointment ................................ 31
 What Will Happen With My Friends? ....................... 32
 Santa Claus ............................................. 32
 Good Hard Worker ........................................ 33
 Comfort ................................................. 36
 Defending Where We Are .................................. 37
 Invalidating Where We Are ............................... 38
 What Motivates Us ....................................... 39
  The Fear of the Opposite Happening ..................... 39
  The Incentive to Have it Happen
    (or The Carrot Principle) ............................ 39
  A Genuine Desire or Want ............................... 39
 Writing Down the Reasons ................................ 40
 Examples of Reasons ..................................... 41
 Writing Down the Benefits ............................... 42
 Examples of Benefits .................................... 43
 Conditioning Barriers ................................... 43
 Why Conflict? ........................................... 45
  Question # 1: Is Your Goal Really Yours? ............... 45
  Question # 2: Are You Willing To Do 
    Whatever Needs to Be Done? ........................... 46
 No Time Like the Present ................................ 46

CHAPTER IV:   MYTHS AND MISCONCEPTIONS ................... 49
 Significance ............................................ 50
 Scarcity ................................................ 51
 There Is No Scarcity on Goals! .......................... 52
 Greed ................................................... 52
 Drudgery  No Fun ........................................ 53
 Fear of Failure ......................................... 55
 Only for Business ....................................... 55
 Only for Sports ......................................... 56
 Strain and Effort ....................................... 56
 Deservingness ........................................... 57
 Conditioning ............................................ 57

CHAPTER V:   THE VALUE OF WRITTEN GOALS .................. 59
 Resistance .............................................. 59
 The Rubberhand Theory ................................... 60
 Miracle List ............................................ 61
 Do Whatever Works ....................................... 62
 Highlights in Your Life ................................. 62
 A Sense of Direction: Certainty ......................... 63
 Starting the Day ........................................ 64
 The Spiral Effect ....................................... 65

CHAPTER VI:   A GUARANTEE ................................ 67
 Promises ................................................ 68
 Competence .............................................. 68

CHAPTER VII:   THE FOCUSING PRINCIPLE .................... 71
 Be, Do, and Have ........................................ 71
 You, Others, and the Universe ........................... 73
 The Guidelines .......................................... 74
  "Own" Your Goal ........................................ 74
  Be Willing For It To Happen ............................ 76
  See It As Attainable ................................... 77
  Intend It To Happen .................................... 79
  Write It Down: Exactly What You Want ................... 80
  Write: Exactly When You Want It ........................ 82
  Write: In Positive Language ............................ 82
  Write: As If It Exists Now ............................. 83
 Maintain Your List of Goals ............................. 84

CHAPTER VIII:   PREPARING FOR THE ADVENTURE .............. 85
 Schedule Time ........................................... 86
 Select A Place .......................................... 87
 Do the Exercise By Yourself! ............................ 88
 Have Everything With You ................................ 88

CHAPTER IX:   THE FOCUSING EXERCISE ...................... 91
 What I Want For My Own Experience of Myself ............. 92
 What I Want Regarding My Interactions
  with Others ........................................... 104
 What Things I Want From the Physical Universe .......... 115
 All Souls Free ......................................... 128
 Take A Walk ............................................ 131
 Is That Really All? .................................... 132

CHAPTER X:   SETTING DEADLINES .......................... 135
 Exact Dates ............................................ 135
 Review Your Lists ...................................... 136
 Subgoals ............................................... 136
 How Do You Feel? ....................................... 137

CHAPTER XI:   TENDING YOUR INTENTIONS ................... 139
 Planning ............................................... 140
 Setting Priorities ..................................... 141
 Corrections and Adjustments ............................ 142
 In Case of Problems .................................... 144
 Goals and Fuel ......................................... 145

CHAPTER XII:   GOING ON FROM HERE ....................... 147
 Attitudes and Beliefs .................................. 147
 Success and Failure .................................... 149
 Walking, As A Success .................................. 150
 Other Examples ......................................... 151
 Our Comfort Zones ...................................... 152
 Celebrate .............................................. 154
 Support Yourself ....................................... 154
 Final Exercise ......................................... 155
 Summing Up ............................................. 156

CONCLUSION .............................................. 159

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS ........................................ 160

TOP